We are excited to have another listener-submitted question to discuss! This question really hit home with us because it resonated with obstacles we’ve recently overcome in our own lives. It reminded us of the powerful emotional growth and healing that can be achieved in a marriage.

The question was: “Is the woman in the marriage relationship the one who does most of the heavy lifting as far as promoting emotional growth toward each other?”

You know, we find that 75% of the time, it is the woman who is pursuing and initiating things that will promote emotional growth. However, this is less because of gender and more due to attachment styles.

If you didn’t know, we love to talk about attachment styles because of how pivotal this concept has been in our marriage, our emotional intelligence, and our individual growth. Your attachment style will determine all sorts of things about how you relate to your spouse—such as if you reach out to them for connection or feel smothered by attention.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How people with different attachment styles engage in a relationship
• The underlying reason you long for connection
• Next steps to develop more secure attachment
• And more!

We have certainly benefited from learning about our attachment styles, and we hope this helps you as well!

Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/emotional-growth-257

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